Lately Donna is able to articulate herself pretty well…she now speaks in sentences punctuated by ‘then’… ‘then’… ‘then’… it’s cute and she can tell a story out of nowhere…
Toby on the other hand without words, uses his eyes to communicate.. yup, all babies do : )
This is priceless.. As adults, we use words and sometimes too many words to communicate… it is good but sometimes, we neglect the non-verbal. We forgot the emotions behind the words. We speak without processing our thoughts and at times, cut others with our ‘cheap words’. At the end of the day, talk is cheap if what you say is not what you mean.
I don’t want to grow old and complicated. I just want to grow old gracefully, the way I’ve always been.
” The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools. ” Ecclesiastes 9: 17
Two of my friends are going through a tough patch emotionally and financially because one dear family member is very sick at home. I spoke to one of them openly and he shared that the medical bills amounted to tens of thousands per session of treatment.. an amount that he could not even cover with his recently received bonuses. He is very stressed but he is pressing on. He does not know how he is going to cover the medical bills but he does not want to compromise on the well-being of his loved one for the sake of saving money. He knows that by engaging the best doctor in this field to oversee the treatment, his dear one would not suffer that much. Another friend just gave birth to a lovely boy and in the bid to save money so that money could be used to defray medical cost of the sick family member, she wanted to do away with epidural…endured her labour until it was confirmed that she was having real contractions, to be admitted to the hospital. From what I know, she has a lower threshold of pain than me.. and that is real low.
It just touched me so much… how much one can endure to better the lives of their loved ones.
The human spirit is enduring.
” A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out, till he leads justice to victory. ” ~ Matt 12:20
“It isn’t the great pleasures that count the most; it’s making a great deal out of the little ones. ”
We like to imagine life to be perfect.. with our kids running about while the mum prepares food in the kitchen and the father reading newspapers in the living room. I always imagine that with a pool just right outside my house, I would swim at least once a week with Donna and it just seems so idyllic.. so nice.. When I plan for a day out with my kids, I always think of nice places to go to… children friendly where they can have loads of fun and activity.. However, it is not always as it seems. I learn through many encounters that it is simply just spending time, giving them attention when they want it that is more important and effective. Just by taking my kids to NTUC will make their day. Just by taking time to talk to my hubby after the kids are asleep is enough to tell him that I care for him. The truth is.. my perspective has changed a bit after going through so many transitions.. I am now not easily taken in by the ideal portrayals of TV commercials. All I want to see at the end of the day is their happy smiles and I know the efforts and time are well-spent.
” Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed. ” ~ Storm Jameson
We want to be happy.. and we want people who come to SUPERMAMA to be happy.. We hope people from all walks of life, all ages, all background will be lifted up in their spirits when they are in SUPERMAMA.. cos we did. : )
“There is something very powerful about…someone believing in you, someone giving you another chance. ” ~ Sheila Walsh.
Earlier, I shared about all the things we have been doing and the major decisions we have made the past year. The journey is made easier because of our family, the support from our family members… our parents and siblings who just believe in us.. no matter how radical and irrational the decisions are. They just have this confidence that whatever we do, it is for the better. This faith in us is so powerful. It is a great encouragement. At the end of the day, we know that even if we fail in what we do, our family will always be there to spur us on.
It feels somewhat like 1 John 4: 18 ” There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear..”
Many friends and loved ones must be wondering why we are doing so many things.. at one time. In a span of half a year, we sold our flat, bought a condo, welcomed our baby Toby and set up SUPERMAMA. It is crazy you may think. And we recently sold our condo, going to buy a hdb, going to leave our jobs in June and July respectively, going to run SUPERMAMA full-time and care for our two kiddos.
We know we cannot do all the above without God. And we know that He really blessed us with His grace and mercy in all our plans. BUT why are we doing all these? Hmmm…. after thinking about it for months, I can say that because both Edwin & I have restlessness in our souls. We are not workaholics.. we are simply not satisfied with routine in life. We want to make life better, and by that, it is not necessarily prosperous.. it is more about giving priority to what is important. We believe that a better quality of life can still be achieved when we stay in a 3 room hdb flat. We want to define our own lives and we are so blessed to be able to do that.
This past month has been full of ups & downs. For us as a family and also individually. Through it all, we learn something precious… that is to manage our expectations. On some days, we are charged up, thinking that we can claim the whole world! On some days, we feel that nothing is happening nor working in our favour. On hindsight, we learn that all we need is a simple faith that God will look after us no matter what. Just this month, I personally saw how being overly confident, overly ambitious can lead to one’s own downfall. We do not want to fall into this trap. Yet, we do not want to be overly cautious, overly conservative to the point that we do not believe in breakthroughs. We just want to have faith in the big and little things we do.
” Faith has to be exercised in the midst of ordinary, down-to-earth living. ” ~ Elizabeth Elliot