” A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he can afford to let alone. ” – Henry David Thoreau
This is such a deep saying…..
Many times we always think that one is rich when we have things and money.
But the issue is not about having possessions.
It is about whether possessions have us…..
Thus, richness on a higher level is truly about contentment.
Being contented with what we have and letting go of what we don’t have.
Such riches requires not a million dollars but a change of mindset!
” It will never rain roses: when we want to have more roses we must plant more trees.” ~ George Eliot
People want roses but they have different expectations of getting them.
Some go on the roadside and hope to find them.
Some decide to steal them from the neighbour’s garden.
Some hope to win a lottery and then with that they can get a garden of roses.
Some choose to wait for the rain of roses to come down (someday).
But those who eventually get the roses are the ones who plant the seeds.
And more than having the roses, they get to smell and enjoy them too! : )
“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.” ~ Elie Wiesel
Recently, I have been hearing some stories of people being indifferent to the needs of others and I thought being indifferent can be very scary.
Apart from the known news about the little girl in China whom no one lent a helping hand while she laid on the ground bleeding profusely… there are a few other stories I heard that are closer to home.
They are not tragic news but still, I am saddened when I hear of them.
What have we become? Why have we become like that?
Is it in the pursuit of success that we become so self-centred?
I don’t know….
I can only hope that we will slowly regain our awareness that we do not live on this planet alone. There are many other fellow human beings living on the same planet as us, experiencing similar or even worst struggles as us.
Before we turn a deaf ear and a blind eye to someone, think….what if one day, we are in the same predicament?
When I was younger, many things are simply black or white. There are only two kinds of people in the world, the good and the bad. If I don’t like vanilla, I would be offered chocolate.
As I grow older, I realised that many things in the world are not black or white. Even people can be half-good, half-no good : P
Thus, I became more reserved in my judgement. Notice how kids like to say ” I don’t like him” – just based on one incident or one impression? But as adults, I have heard many married couple share how their first impression of each other aren’t good.
So what happened to the world? Nothing….
It is just us growing up realising that apart from the colour black and white, there are many other colours around. If you don’t feel like vanilla ice-cream, there is always raspberry or other complicated oops.. I mean sophiscated flavours around.
” Wisdom is learning what to overlook.” ~ William James
Dealing with people is one of the most difficult yet important skill in life. When we are a master in working and dealing with people issues, we will be very successful in life!
Sometimes we meet nasty people. But the more scary ones are those who are pleasant on the outside yet bitter on the inside. When our paths cross and some issues arise, I have learned that sometimes, it is better and wiser to overlook the differences.
When we focus on the issues and the nastiness, we are making a mountain out of a molehill; afterall, such people are just nasty anyway. They are not worth our anger nor energy.
We need to learn what to look into and what to overlook.
Simply put, let’s NOT major on the minor and minor on the major!
Life is bigger than that! : )
When we look ourselves in the mirror, who do we see?
Are we too preoccupied with ourselves that we forget the existence of others?
Are we putting on so many masks that we cannot even tell who our real selves are?
Have we been dwelling on the negative too much that all we see is a wrinkled face, a person who looks beyond her age?
When was the last time we seriously look ourselves in the mirror and think about the person we see?
You will be surprised, you might not recognise the person you see….
And I hope it is for the better : )
” It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer. ” ~Albert Einstein
We all encounter difficult situations and problems in our life. Problems at work, in school, at home, in relationships and even with your dog.
Some are tough, some are manageable and some easy to solve.
Our value increases when we are able to solve and troubleshoot tough problems, knotty issues in life and at work. We do not increase in value solving issues that can be solved with our eyes closed – because they are simply not problems anymore.
And our value will increase even more when we are willing to stay with problems, resolving to solve them for ourselves or for others.
This is because at the end of the day, it is not the problems that matter…. but it is our character….
A problem is merely a tool in moulding our character.
Let us stay and be a problem solver!